How I hate that word.
I hate it because I’m bad at it. It does not come easily for me – at all!
If you know me well, or have ever worked with me on something, then you know that I’m a big picture person. I have a LOT of ideas, and usually they’re pretty good ideas. However, ask me to follow up and implement those ideas from start to finish? That might not a good idea. That is, unless you want the idea half done. If you want it half done, then I am your girl!!
There has been a push in the last 10 years or so to find out what you are good at, what your personality strengths are, and stick with that. We had books like What Color is Your Parachute, endless possibilities for taking personality tests online (and I’m not talking about the buzzfeed “Which Disney princess are you?” tests – although those are fun!). I’m talking about the Myers-Briggs, the DISC model, spiritual gifts inventories, and many others.
I think there is great value in knowing what your strengths and weakness are as a person. We need all types of people working together to make things happen successfully. If we only had big picture people, we would never get anything done. If we only had people with good self-discipline and follow through, then we would have fewer inspired ideas. However, this shift to truly understanding and working within your strengths has led some people to just sit in their comfort zone. They know what they’re good at, and they are going to only do that. It can become an excuse not to grow in areas where more balance does equal more health.
I absolutely believe that we are created with personalities, temperaments, strengths, and weaknesses that are important to know, and that living your life in your area of weakness is not healthy or smart. However!! I also believe that there are certain areas of weakness that are important to tackle, and grow through. If I can’t follow through on anything, that is only okay if there are others around me to pick up the slack. Unfortunately, I don’t get to have a team of people in my life that follow me around doing that, although that would be awesome!
I’m going to let you in on a little secret now . . .
My desire to grow in self-discipline is part of the reason I started this blog. I am horrible at following through on things. I am horrible at sending out that follow-up email, sticking to my goals to spend time reading my Bible every day, keeping my house clean, being self-disciplined in eating healthy, getting that paper work done at work right away . . . I could go on and on, but really it’s already getting embarrassing. So when I had the idea to start this blog, I told myself that no matter what, I was going to write once a week for a year. Self-discipline.
Now I’ve already missed one week, and missing that one week gave me the perfect opportunity to bail on this. I don’t like to “fail,” so if I think I already did, I’m quick to throw in the towel. See? No self-discipline. 🙂 But I haven’t, because this time I’m going to see this through, even when it is Sunday night and I have so many ideas of what to write about that I become paralyzed. I will write something, because I am determined to grow as a more well-rounded person.
What I really want to do is instantly become self-disciplined in every area of my life. Doesn’t that sound exactly like the statement of someone who isn’t very self-disciplined?? I want success, and I want it now! But I am aware enough, and have walked with enough clients as they attempt to change their lives to know that trying to change too much, too fast sets me up for failure. So I am going to work on all these areas, but my main focus, my main goal is going to be sticking with this blog.
There is a generalization effect that comes with change. Tackle one area of your life that needs improvement, and you will be amazed with how it slowly trickles into the other areas of your life. You don’t have to grow all at once, because sometimes all it takes is a little growth in one area to really start to change.
Perfection is not the goal!!
The goal is balance.
The goal is growth – slow and steady growth!